oh and then, mr pdaddy . .
thinking about your question & my goody two shoes answer, please forgive me . . I have a ridiculously optimistic love/work ethic.
this morning, while laying in your arms, I had these insights:
just for clarification, when your heart is broken, whether by someone else or just by the sheer courage of your own self examination, it is good to do something & not just ponder the brokenness . . but do something with intent . . I had a poetry teacher who counseled me when I fretted over the 2 hour blocks of time I had to write poetry when my kids were little & I was so worried to waste the time. She said to do small fruitful tasks, one after another, leaving no time to fret . . even if it was as seemingly meaningless as (she actually said) like decanting your shampoo . . . & then, in the middle of this tending, the creative impulse would just happen. I do my best writing while driving the car , for example. I know you don't like to think of these things, but it is so true . . I do it without looking of course (writing not driving) & then it becomes like automatic writing & my hand is loose & free.
That is like the healing of the heart. Point your vehicle to a destination & move there with your whole being.
& the other thing:
. . by action with intent, you put yourself in the fire. When heated, the bread can take the butter in & it takes less and goes deeper, spreads wider. This is what I meant by softening.
see you later xox tla