dear love artist / why I ask

dear love artist,

First of all, Thanks for the compliment on my girls and for such a thorough reply!  I love learning. 

The reason that I ask is because it seems as if anyone that I date seems to tell me that within weeks of knowing me and I question the validity. I realize that I should just chill and see where it takes me providing I'm interested.

So I was just wondering if females are more likely to catch those "feelings" first.


Artist Formerly The Most Electrifying Man in Sales


 



dear artist,

I have to say it makes me a little bit sad to hear that women are saying they love you within three weeks but then again, you were the most electrifying man in sales . . . :) . . not sad that they are saying it, but sad that maybe it makes the words less worth it, somehow . .

I have to say that those words come out of my mouth so easily too . . and it is not as if I don't mean them, but sometimes they just bubble out before I even realize that I have said them. 

Over the years I have become more present with myself and I have become very close with the sensation that births those words.  It is love, of course it is, but we all  have learned -- culturally, through movies, songs & tv as well as from watching each other -- we have learned a certain monumental & melodramatic meaning connected to the words i love you that has a very specific storyline, and that's what gets us in trouble, that's what scares us (being afraid of that storyline) or gets us into situations before we are ready (really really wanting that storyline).

So, to answer your question, I think the seed of that falling in love thing is something beautiful we all have inside & it grows like wildfire under certain conditions & it seems like women (a lot of women & particularly the women you seem to be meeting) have really stellar conditions to grow that feeling (& less impulse control on voicing it).

You don't seem to be complaining . . .


xox tla

Comments

[crystal]

I can see why so many would feel giddy and helpless with those words when in the company of the AFTMEMIS and his daughters. Also, i find myself saying 'I love you' and fully meaning it, with the meaning of it that I know in my head, at that time. I am aware when saying it that it could mean more in the future, but i let it just mean what it means to me be, for the time I say it. I don't feel that this is deceitful, but I can see that another's idea of what it might mean might not meet directly with mine. Mostly I explain what I mean when I first say it, to avoid confusion or panic. But some people still panic. But then, some people think they think something, when, as Kathe says, they are caught up in something else, and those words serve as their outlet for it.
The AFTMEMIS already answered his own question though, when he said he should just relax and see what happens.All becomes clear.
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