hi love doctor,
the idiot emailed me- after all this time, he sent some bogus message in spanish on how the spring was treating me and that he hoped that i was smiling.
i have not yet responded and don't know if i should.
i of course thought- what would the love healer do?
xo
ra
First of all my lovely one,
I am not the love doctor or love healer . . although I believe it my love artistry is soothing . .
Lately I have been referring to myself as a
love intuitive
& it is from this place that I answer these questions, to the best of my ability. The counsel that I give here is different from my love artistry only in that it is more focused on you, all of you, & my aim is to bring you some relief from your suffering by sharing some of the generous teachings that I have received.
Just to clarify . . .
There are a few issues here:
-- if you excuse me for being bold, but I am taken back by your anger . . & I am not judging your response at all . . it is just that the holding onto anger is so toxic & draining on all systems, so when you use the world idiot both the immediate & long term residue in your own body, mind & spirit begins to color the rest of your life. It's only email, after all, why bother polluting everything over a few lines . . why not just love him in that instant & be done with it, he'll never know either way & you certainly will feel better (this is the novice form of love -- the practicing of love).
-- second of all, you probably shouldn't of opened the email at all, if you have such a negative history with this man . . I believe that in obsessive breakups or those that are particularly painful that one should maintain a
no contact
strategy, sometimes for up to a year of more. I know it's hard not to open an email in the privacy of your own home, but don't do it . . I suggest blocking the email address completely for a while so you are not even tempted to look. You need to get a running start on your healing.
-- lastly, men have a different take on small talk than women -- for whatever reason he wanted to make contact. He probably did not mean anything by it, but obviously you want more . .
As I advised you before, be sweet to yourself & sweet to the world around you. If you can stand it, bless him everyday. Give him to whatever spirit it is you pray to & ask them to take care of him, pray he gets whatever he needs & do this once a day for a month. I guarantee the ripple effect for your clarity & selflove will be worth it, more than worth it.
I'm sure it's the last thing you feel like doing, but go ahead & do it anyway.
love you xox tla
Love Intuitive, thank you for your message. I have been through negative break-ups before & it's good for me to remember how to treat situations like the one that this entry refers to. In love, Shuriu
Posted by: Shuriu | May 07, 2007 at 02:53 PM